Falling in love with someone who holds back yet claims he is attracted to you

Its true that even a person at your age got confused in taking some decision about ourself. You had been married for 13 years and so you know better what a relationship really need to survive. I am sure, you would have a good relationship initially with your ex husband but what led to divorce? Why this relationship ended. There are few question about your past relationship which you can use to determine before starting a new relationship. I am not saying that you compare the both relations, but you need to priorities your need in a relationship, can you get them with this guy? I should not be logical when it come to love, but sometime it becomes important to judge it with mind then heart, because till now you would have come to know what matters in a relationship after 5-10 years? Is it the same feeling which you are feeling or it need something else like cooperation, understanding... etc... This Guy can be nice for you or may not be. But I will not suggest you to lose a good guy due any reason, but you need to know him well and try to meet him, know his past, present to make sure that you are committed to real & genuine person. I can only say- go for it but keep your mind open. Because in Love we only follow our emotion which is not correct always.

Name**: capricorn
Sex*: Female
Age (in Years)*: 37
Marriage Status*: Single
Social Status*: Working
Ralationship Duaration*: Less than 1 Year
Message**: I have a dillemma that even at my age, I couldn't fathom how to
answer. I was in a 13 year marriage until we divorced and just March of
2012, I met a guy who is currtently living overseas (work related) but
originally from AZ. I'm from california and we started chatting, exchanging
messages until we had a chance to skype and video chat and we were very much
into each other until things got hard to handle as I claimed for more
attention and constant reassurance that I'm the only one he talks to, or
likes etc. It was difficult because it was my first time afer my ex husband
to talk to someone on a daily basis and I felt that he and I have
established that connection. Sometime in mid April we both got busy with our
work and decided to hold back our feelings since it was getting intense and
we haven't even met each other face to face yet (except on skype). I truly
like him and he said he also likes me however there is no assurance that we
would be together as he is stationed outside of the USA for abother 2 years
and after that he doesn't know where he goes (he's in the military). We
remain friends and we made a promise to each other that we would teach each
other if we meeet someone local that we think is interesting and can be a
potential partner. We remain friends on facebook and still message each
other every other day but no more skype. The more I know him on facebook,
the more I become friends with him, and the more he becomes a confidante to
me, the more I am drawn to him. But he is so good at suppressing his
emotions and he still admits the attraction is still there and that as soon
as he gets a chance to be back in the US, he will see me. I honestly don't
know what I am feeling towards him. I know he makes my heart beat faster
when we used to skype and the smile he brings to my face whenever I would
read a message from him or see him through skype is something i have not
done in a long time. I just get frustrated at the situation and sometimes my
constant asking for reassurance that he still likes me and plans to visit
him annoys him. What do I need to do? Do you honestly think I have fallen
for him or is it just a fantasy that I should stop? And that if you advice
me to stop, what are the things I need to do? I tried stopping talking to
him but my efforts failed as I end up messaging him back. I truly like him
and despite what my friends say that he's not a reality , just an illusion,
I feel that I still want to be with him in the future. ZPlease help. Thank
you